We begin to define sexuality: certainly a delicate cultural theme, under the social influences of the worst moralism, rigidly condemned by the Church as considered a mortal sin. Sex has also been analyzed by law, and as this is also subject to the judgment of the law, it is taken into consideration above all if immoral behavior is carried out, even when woman looking for man. Some seemingly unnatural sexual desires have been termed ' paraphilias ' or ' paraphilic disorders ' by the medical tradition as if they were pathologically symptomatic. Among these, the example from which we will start our analysis is the famous BDSM.
Perversion and its social condemnation
When we use the term perversion, we use a word with a meaning aimed at condemning desires and actions within a wide-open field of sexuality and eroticism. A range that is, above all, related to fetishism almost automatically.
This word functions as a linguistic talisman, a magical name that when spoken aloud frightens, and places a discriminatory label on something that must be socially eliminated.
This is because perversion is not an independent meaning, but reflects the fears of the individual. What a verbal fetish does is function as in a void where its emergent effect feels like some kind of condemnation.
Along with fetishism and other types of perversions, BDSM has been classified as a paraphilia, so its popular image is linked to offensiveness. However, it is among the most accepted, as I play with human excrement, it can be more difficult to accept as normal (coprophilia).
But is BDSM a perversion? Can it be considered a disorder?
We assume that these two terms do not necessarily have to be condemnation; their tropology nowadays can be ironic and even creatively playful. The situation changes when social conventions and habits change in turn, as is the case with homosexuality in many cultures that have only recently been liberated.
Calling BDSM perverted sex gives it an essentially negative, ultimately discriminatory, characterization.
If one wants to ascertain or condemn a type of desire, need, or action, one should not use ad hoc terms just to denounce, although negative labeling has biblical roots: desire has always been associated with the concept of sin. Linking sin metonymically with immorality is a condemnation that turns into a universalizable judgment.
Precisely in this way we arrived in the twenty-first century with enormous complexes that still hinder us, because by now 'sin' has become applicable to everyday social life, acquiring a tone of extra-religious significance. It is enough to have a simple aversion to something that takes a few minutes to make it go viral, in the media and destroy a concept that until that day has been ignored or considered normal. After all, even in the Middle Ages BDSM existed, even if it did not have a real name.
By calling BDSM sick, unnatural, or sinful we make it one of the activities condemned by the medical community. Who has the courage, however, to call him a publicly criminal? One should specify the reasons for one's conviction because no negative thing can be bad in its way and in a special way.
However, talking about perversion doesn't say much about sex; sex is however irremediably twisted in all its forms, regardless of the presence of a hypothetical disturbed.
Who says vanilla sex is a simple thing? Still, it is considered 'normal' by ordinary people ...
Are we sure that by prioritizing vanilla sex or simple human reproductive activity, we resolve the uncommon tendencies of the human mind?
There is no good answer. Only if they cause real social harm, commit a crime and a crime, it becomes a different concern. If BDSM-related craving seeks intolerable pain and suffering ... a person is indirectly seeking medical help. This is not the case for everyone, however. There are simply those who want to experiment. So we're sure BDSM is the problem? Perhaps it is the individual himself who has to ask his personal questions and draw his conclusions.
The sexual disorder is a personal problem, not to be associated with labels. Everyone has a perversion, whether it is alive in their mind or well buried in the depths of the soul.
The problem is not generated by BDSM; many BDSM fans are happy and fulfilled people.
Below, we will analyze which obscene sexual desires are the most prevalent.
The 15 highly prevalent obscene desires
Exhibitionism: People who love to expose their genitals to a stranger who doesn't expect it is commonly called 'exhibitionists'. Although one would immediately think of the classic scene of the naked maniac under the raincoat, it is one of the usually masculine desires that also manifest themselves in more elegant ways.
Fetishism for sex toys: widespread among those who use inanimate objects such as the vibrator, designed for the stimulation of the genitals to procure orgasm.
Frotteurism: touching or rubbing on an unwilling person.
Zoophilia: sexual attraction towards animals.
Masochism: Feeling sexual arousal from being humiliated, beaten, or made to suffer in any other way possible.
Sadism: Same as masochism, but on the other side of the role play. Non-simulated actions in which imparting physical and psychological suffering on others causes limitless arousal.
Transvestism: arousal of a straight male in dressing in women's clothes, wearing wigs, using make-up.
Voyeurism: becoming aroused by observing a subject while he is naked or engaged in sexual activities, obviously without his being aware of it.
Paraphilia Not Otherwise Specified (NAS): This category codes those paraphilias that do not meet the criteria of any of the above but have a higher diagnostic weight. Among the most common examples are:
- Telephone scatology: Arousal is obtained by harassing through obscene phone calls.
- Necrophilia: Sexual attraction towards corpses.
- Partialism: arousal obtained from an exclusive part of the body.
- Cropophilia: Sexual arousal through the use of feces.
- Urophilia: Sexual arousal through the use of urine.
- Enema: Sexual arousal through the use of enemas.