On first dates, you might think he's the ideal partner: kind, gallant, attentive, loving, devoted, and very interested in bed.
Maybe she even enveloped you with her attention, with gifts, flowers, flattery, and promises of true romance, until you almost feel overwhelmed by her charm.
However, as time went by and he already got what he wanted from you, sex exactly when he wanted it, you noticed changes in his behavior. Initially, it begins to devalue and criticize yourself subtly, and then openly and directly. He gets angry when something doesn't suit him or he doesn't like what you do, how you behave.
Also, he no longer considers what you like in bed but seems totally focused on his desires.
If your partner has such a general attitude of superiority, along with the need for regular praise and admiration, he may be suffering from Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
What does narcissistic sexual behavior look like?
These traits tend to remain constant over time in many life circumstances. Here are some of the bed narcissus symptoms:
- They need a lot of praise: in general, they have a very good opinion of themselves. They are considered special, gifted, and more important than anyone else.
- In bed, he acts to satisfy his own pleasure. He may try to please you just to praise his abilities.
- Look for validation every time. When you don't give him the admiration he expects, he may insist on giving you extra compliments or even annoy you.
- He reacts badly when you disagree with him: for example, he reacts badly if you bite his throat.
- He reacts impulsively if you don't want to have sex with an escort in Rome exactly when he wants it, accusing you of cheating on him or not caring about him.
You may not immediately recognize this type of behavior as abuse. However, these manipulative tactics fall under the umbrella of sexual coercion. But no one can force you to have sex or not. In a healthy relationship, your partner will respect your decision and limitations and won't be able to pressure you if you change your mind to have steady sexual intercourse whenever they want.
Narcissism usually implies a lack of empathy and has a weak interest in the other's feelings. He may also tell you in which position he wants to have sex, in which place, just to ensure the necessary comfort and satisfaction, regardless of your opinion and feelings.
It is also important to understand that there are several subtypes of narcissism. Although narcissistic behaviors align with the same core characteristics, they won't look exactly the same from person to person.
That said, narcissism itself doesn't automatically mean someone will cheat, use sexual coercion tactics, or exhibit aggressive sexual behavior.
How can this affect you in the long run?
Narcissistic traits can affect all of your personal and professional relationships, making it difficult to hold down a job, maintain friendships, or have healthy romantic relationships.
Plus, if you try to coerce or manipulate a partner into sex, you may face legal consequences, not to mention the lasting trauma and suffering you may leave behind.